The debate of arranged
marriage and love marriage is not new in India.
Both concepts have their own merits and demerits.
However, the strong negative
point about this system is that there might never be actual love between boy
and girl. Still they live together because of the social
compulsion. Love might not be there because
their differences in thoughts, different social backgrounds, different economic
status of the family and so and so forth.
Therefore, there is risk of unhappy family or breaking of the marriage.
Love Marriage: In Love marriage, normally boys and girls
know each other for a fairly long time.
They understand each other habits, thoughts, cultural values and family
back ground. The element of marriage
takes place only when they feel that their relationship or courtship should
result into marriage. It is therefore expected that this will be a
serious relationship. They will have
strong love and bonding for each other.
There will be more respect for each other. More free space and less possessiveness will
be the order of the day.
But many a times, we have
seen love marriages in India proved to be a disaster. The “made for each other”
tag vanishes as soon as they enter into a family life and they start realizing
the difficulties of practical life. The
girl is not able to accommodates when the boy gives time to his parents, share
his income with them, giving importance to his own brothers and sisters or
rationalizing his own expenses on wife for which he was unmindful till
marriage. Perhaps we may call this as
marriage as the result of infatuation and not love.