HAPPINESS

Responsibility Vs Attachment

After sad demise of her son a woman was mourning for days to gather and not allowing his body to be consigned to the flames. She had faith in God and was convinced that her son will be live again. Lord Budha happened to visit her village and she went to him and prayed for life of her son. Lord Budhha said, “yes he will bring life to the dead body if she can bring a glass of water from a family in whose house there was no death”. She came back empty handed but realized that life and death is the rotation of nature and this invariably happens.

Once my boss asked me to give him a pen in the hotel lobby. I immediately gave him a branded pen which I was having in my pocket. He said, “please give me a pen which kept in the folder of hotel room.” I changed the same immediately. He smiled and remarked, “let us not possess those things for which we become possessive”.

Now let us come to Jain religion which preaches us a theory of detachment of life from worldly things (away from “Moha and Maya”) so that one can remain happy and attain a state of “Moksha”.

I really do not know why I have narrated these incidents. But somewhere the meaning of all these incidents is to remain happy in whatever circumstances we are placed.

Now the moot question is, is it crime to remain happy? Is it necessary to remain in a state of shock? Is it necessary that you should abdicate all your hobbies, all your friends, all your company, all your preference, simply because you have a responsibility towards your family, your spouse, your children, your parents, your brother and so on. Why people time and again remind you your grieves so that you always remain traumatized. Why do people themselves do not want to forget their sorrows if somebody genuinely trying to keep you away from negative thoughts. Why do we always take the positively steps of our loved ones in the negative direction?

I really do not have any answer to these questions. The other day, a psychologist visited my office to give us a lecture on “Happiness”. Her answer was the best way to remain happy is do what you like, give time to yourself, peruse your hobbies, give some time to society. You will be fulfilled with your desire to get a state of self actualization. And ultimately you will be happy. But how to do that is again a question?

I have feeling you should be responsible, play your role, but act like a doctor. Being in a sad state and making other sad every time is not the answer.

Thailand Trip

Thailand Diary (14^th to 22^nd aug 2010)

There was a clash between mind and heart. Kaku was insisting for my visit to Thailand. I was not keen in view of the schools of kids. However, Beenu said that she cannot refuse the invitation of Kaku, a nephew of rare qualities. Finally I gave in. While Kaku was on telephone from Bangkok, I booked tickets through Clear trip, a fabulous offer from Thai Airways.

The time difference between IST and Thailand is 1.5 hours. We landed in Thailand at around 5.30 pm on 14^th August, 2010. Took a metered taxi for Sukhmit Soi 16 and reached Sommerset Lake at 7 pm. We were welcomed by Adi, Anju and Kaku by Arti and applying Tilak on our forehead. I could see the joy on the face of Adi seeing Arpit and Kshitij (Chachas) with him.

After freshen up, we had sumptuous dinner, had lot of gossips and went to bed at around 1 am.

Next day (15.8.2010) morning we planned our trip for Dream Land. Dream land is a place where one can easily spend the whole day for various excursion activities particularly enjoying rides of various swings, photography’s in various postures and eating out. This place is quite similar to that of Essel World in Mumbai. But it has certain USPs like 4 D Theatre, Stunt Shows, and systematic approach with lot of lined trees and shrubs. We returned home at 7 pm and had our dinner in an Indian restaurant called “Saras”, a pure vegetarian restaurant being run by a Rajasthani family.

On 16^th August, 2010, we went to Safari Park, again a whole a day affairs. The Giraffe, Zebra, Loin, Tiger and innumerable animals and birds really please the eyes of all the nature lovers. Here, one can enjoy the various animals’ shows like Elephant shows, Sharks shows, Monkey shows, Bird shows etc. It’s really amazing to see the water animals performing at the tunes of their masters.

On 17^th we opted for city tour. We took a cab and went straight to a Wat pho ( a conglomerate of various temples dedicated to Lord Budhha) within a single campus. The main attraction is a huge statute of lord Buddha in reclining posture. We also saw a Thai Royal Palace from outside and went to Gem Palace (a must she world’s biggest jewellery store) at the instance of our taxi driver. Our next destination was the Paragon Siam Osian Mall. This is a high end Mall, where world’s best brands are housed and beyond the reach of common man. In basement they have created a marine park along with a 4 D Theatre. They have created a marvel, a complete museum of marine life in an area of around 40,000 sqft in three basement levels.

18^th was scheduled for Phuket. We took early morning flight of Air Asia and reached Phuket at 9 am. One should be careful while taking luggage in Thailand because check in luggage also cost you dearly. We were booked at Hotel Furaexclusive, a 3 star hotel with swimming pool and all amenities. This hotel is at a walking distance from Patong beach. Hotels in Phuket are very good and quite reasonable. In the afternoon, we went straight to Patong beach. The sun was blooming and temperature must be around 36 degree Celsius We could see lot of Firangis lying bare clothed enjoying sun bath. We hired two long chairs with umbrellas to take shelter in.

We came back to Hotel at around 4.30 pm and relaxed there for about 2 hours. In the evening, we were booked for Fatasia Show. This is an splendid show of man and animals in perfect harmony. The auditorium with a capacity around 2000 persons is nearly full. Besides this, you have plenty of other activities before entering the mail auditorium including games and food. You need to have a minimum budget of Rs. 3000 per person while visiting this show. Show lasted for about one hour and we came back to our hotel at 11.30 pm

19^th was the second day of our trip and we took conducted tour of city. Our guide Ms Mimi was a charming lady with permanent smile on her face. She showed us best locations of Phuket like Kata Beach, Karon Beach, Kata View Point, Phuket Town, Handicraft show rooms, Activity Park etc. At 2 pm we bade good bye to our guide, had lunch in an Indian Restaurant and came back to Hotel. At about 5 pm we again went to Kata beach, a pure white sand virgin beach. It’s like heaven on earth. You can completely relax here.

Evening was meant for city trip. While kids opted to stay in Hotel due to tiredness, we went to see the night life of Phuket. We straight went to Bangla Market. The area is cordoned off for vehicular traffic and you can see vibrancy of pubs, bars, music stores, coffee shops and of course road side kiosks. The experience was exhilarating.

The next day i.e. 20^th was scheduled for Phang Nga Bay and surrounding island trip. The trip was booked on arrival at the Airport of Phuket where you have chance of getting good discount. The tour operator pick you up from your hotel on appointed time and take you straight to the Jetty. This trip is awesome. The small islands, lagoons, hills, caves and greenery in the mid of sea is just not forgettable. We took a few snaps of the James Bond island where film “Kaho na Pyar hain” was shot. As usual Beenu took the full advantage of the scenic beauty and delighted me, the Cameraman. Many modals will be envy of Beenu’s poses. The trip came to an end at around 5 pm with vote of thanks.

We took opportunity to have one more round of market and Patong beach in the evening as we had sufficient time for taking flight to Bangkok. Impulse buying was a must. We flown to Bangkok at around 11 pm and landed Bangkok at 12.30 am. Kaku and Anju were waiting for us. The house was fully decorated with Balloons and candles. Cake with beautiful icing was waiting for Arpit’s birth day celebration. Hats off to this couple who took so much interest and pain for the birth day celebration of Arpit to whom they love more than their own brother.

21^st was our last day in Thailand. While, kid went to Pantim Plaza for shopping of gadgets with Kaku bhaiya, we went to Chatu Chat week end market. This is a special market of handicraft and day to day needs having around 35000 shops. It is like big field where you have multi lanes, multi roads and multi shops where one can spend full day shopping, still not able to cover the full market.

Early morning of 22^nd was our departure day. Thailand is a Bhudhist nation, one will surprise to see the huge, gigantic statute of lord Vishnu of Samudra Manthan. A country where all religions are equally respected. In India, if we do that, our pseudo secular politicians will say we are converting our country to a saffron state.

Many many kudos to Kaku and Anju who made our trip one of the finest one and the most memorable one. They also extended all help, support, when hell broke with the news of sad demise of Gullu in an accident on 21st late evening, an IIT graduate, nephew of Beenu. Hats off to them for showing so much compassion, composure, warmth, affection and I am run short of words.....the great marvels of Gordhansa.

Teej Festival of Rajasthan

On board Shatabdi Express 9.8.2010, 9 am.

Teej Festival Rajasthan Parishad

Teej is one of the most widely celebrated festivals of Rajasthan. Swings, traditional songs and dancing are the unique features of Teej celebrations in Rajasthan. Women perform traditional folk dance dressed in green colored clothes and sing beautiful Teej songs while enjoying their sway on swings bedecked with flowers.

Teej is celebrated with immense fun and fanfare in most of the towns of Rajasthan. On this day, women and young girls wear their best clothes and adorn themselves with fine jewelry. They gather at a nearby temple or a common place and offers prayers to Goddess Parvati for well-being of their husband.

On the occasion of Teej, markets in cities and villages are stocked with trendiest women accessories and clothes. Most of the fabric clothes display laheria (tie and dye) prints. Sweet shops keep different Teej sweets but ghewar is the main sweet of the season. At some shops malpuas are also prepared in great quantities.

All over Rajasthan, swings are hung from trees and decorated with fragrant flowers. Women both married and unmarried love to swing on these swings to celebrate the 'sawan Festival'.

Teej procession of Jaipur not just attracts visitors from India but also lures a large number of international tourists. High point of Teej procession is the magnificently decorated idol of Goddess Parvati which is kept on a palanquin and carried through the Pink City of Jaipur.

Thousands of devotees throng the procession which is carried out for two consecutive days. Antique gilt palanquins, bullock carts pulling cannons, chariots, caparisoned elephants, camels, bands, and dance groups form a part of the grand Teej procession. The palanquin of Goddess Parvati is carried by eight men dressed in red color. Teej procession is a very huge affair which moves through various places in Jaipur. Lot of Teej songs are sung when the procession moves further. Folk artists and performers enchant the crowd with their splendid performance. Some people even dress up like Gods and Goddesses and play various musical instruments. Teej prasad is distributed among the crowd of devotees.

Teej Festival was celebrated at Rajasthan Parishad Bhawan in Tricity with great pomp and show followed by dinner on 8^th August, 2010.

We have around 500 families from Rajasthan and generally participation is very good.

This time, there was gathering of around 350 people. We had around 12 items in the cultural evening. WE normally encourage group participation, therefore, in most of the programmes people from all age group do participate and try to make the evening memorable with their best of performances with lots of hard work in the back ground.

As usual Arpit enthralled audience with his inimical style of Comedy. This time he chose to cracks jokes on different topics instead of single line subject.

Beenu also prompted me to perform with her on stage and she choreographed Rajsthani Dance for both of us on song “Moriya Acchho bolio re adhhi rat ro”. The dance was an instant hit and everybody in the audience was dancing with us. I personally feel that anything done with passion and involvement gives you great satisfaction. Beenu is otherwise also known for her varied cultural and food skills, but to make me dance like her was a great effort by her. She also made it sure that “make up is done by herself” only.

The other events like Ganesh Vandana by kids, Skit on dowry, Solo song, and dances were also highly cheered by the audience.

The occasion was cheered with prize distribution and ended with great recipe of food.

WHO CAN BEAT KAKU?

Yesterday I was frantically looking for script of "Dharti Dhora ki". Was trying to write through listening CD. Then idea came in. Sent one SMS to Bangkok. And to utter my surprise within two minute I got the script in pdf file. Imagine who could do this? None other than Kaku.

Thanks Kaku once again.

Where there is a will.....

On board IC 505 from Bangalore to Delhi

6^th July, 2010

Opposition parties called Bharat Bandh on 5^th July, 2010 in protest against the general price rise and decontrol of petroleum products in particular.

We had a scheduled programme of meeting in Bangalore on same day with a leading developer and all business heads. It was decided to keep meeting post afternoon when Bandh will be at its dying stage. With persistent request all agreed and meeting was held as planned.

On 4^th July, 2010, it was raining in Chandigarh and Jet Airways flight was delayed by about 1.30 hours. Therefore, it was almost certain that I would not be getting connecting flight of Spice Jet from Delhi which was scheduled to fly at 17 hours. I though of canceling the ticket of Spice Jet and get a new ticket for Bangalore. I went to ticket counter and requested Ms Lovlin, a steward of Jet Airways to help me out in view of the delay in incoming flight. She offered me a chair and assured that she would try to render all possible help so that I need not cancel the ticket so that I can save both money and time. She made all permutations and combination to see the cheapest Flight available from Delhi (from any airline) and at the same time she used her persuasive power to get me a seat in Air India flight to Delhi which was slightly delayed by that time. I was very much impressed with her sense of duty and on remarks that if a passenger lose money, she feels as it was going from her own pocket. Therefore she leave no stone unturned to help any passenger.

But as the luck would have it, after boarding the aircraft the this flight was also delayed and I landed in Delhi at 4.45 pm and rushed straight to the check in counter of Spice Jet. But the cute looking, bi spectacled, young girl refused to issue me boarding pass and also expressed inability to refund the ticket as their rules permit cancellation of ticket only two hours before the departure time. So it was a case of loss of Rs. 7500.00 for no fault of mine. I took a deep breath, maintained my cool and went out and first purchased a new ticket from Jet Lite with the request to the staff to issue me at ticket with the cheapest fare available. She obliged me issued a ticket worth Rs. 7350.00. Surprisingly a few minutes ago the ticket to my colleague was issued at Rs. 13,000.00 for the same Flight. A great saving indeed.

Now I went to the duty manager of Jet Airway, a beautiful lady in mini skirt, glowing face, chubby cheeks and bob cut hair. I narrated my tale and requested her to help me out with a refund of ticket. But she refused to oblige. On this I became firm and asked her that I would be the last person to be taken for granted and not going to suffer this loss. Seeing my aggressive posture, she became more polite and said that it was not in her hand to get me refund, but surely I can write to customer service of Jet airways for refund or she can make an attempt with Spice Jet to get me refund. I said, “Mam ..Whatever you want to do…do it right now….I am concerned only for refund of my ticket..” She accompanied me to the same desk manager of Spice Jet and requested her to do the needful. This young girl looked deep into my eyes and understood my seriousness on this. She tried one or two telephone calls to her seniors and got permission for refund of ticket.

I thanked both of them and boarded my next flight.

In normal course we give up and do not care specially if it is a official trip, but if we make a little effort, things happen the way we want. That is my conviction. These two may be small incidents (Meeting and refund)…but that is how positive waves help us.

Travelogue

It is 6 am on 25^th June morning and I am writing sitting in the balcony of Sharanam 11.

On 23^rd morning, we boarded King Fisher’s flight from Chandigarh to Delhi. Flight was delayed by about 30 minutes at Chandigarh it self as there was heavy air traffic congestion at Delhi Airport and ATC did not allow Craft to take off. As per our request we got the last seat so that Baiji can be seated comfortably. However the wheel chair refused to go beyond the crew cabin and therefore, with the help of wheel chair boy I lifted Baiji and made her to sit in the last isle side chair. However I made uncharitable remarks on air hostesses that they are very tender and weak to handle a patient when Baiji was again and again telling the beautiful ladies to lift her. ATR has also its own limitation. The most horrifying thing was that Air Conditioning was not functioning and in the suffocation, the passengers started disembarking and forced captain to fly.
Somehow we landed at Delhi at 11.45 am for onward journey to Jodhpur. Again the challenge was to lift Baiji and put her in the wheel chair. Ms Akanksha the female cabin crew member mustard all courage and alone lifted Baiji to the wheel chair after great efforts. Her whole uniform drenched with perspiration. You can see the feeling of satisfaction on her face. I felt embarrassed and apologized for my starting comments.

The next flight was of Air India.

From Arrival lounge we walked up to 400 meters for departure lounge. Took Baiji to wash room for urine flushing and freshen her up. Seeing me doing all this, the female house keeping staff of airport obliged me voluntarily and helped Baiji in the rest rooms meant for handicapped persons.

Air India has got hydraulic lift facility and Baiji was smoothly transferred to her seat. This was an Air bus which was equipped with all the modern gadgets for more comfort for passengers.

We landed in Jodhpur at about 2.30 pm. Jain Sab with family came to Airport to receive us. On reaching home, the complete charge was handed over to Induji. Behanji prepared the complete list of medicines and diet and their timing. I observed the patient till next early morning and seeing the things getting attuned, I went to Nakodaji with Ashok Rathi. We also went to Ashotra for Darshan of Lord Brahamaji. In India there are only two temples dedicated to lord Brhma. It is said whosoever take the responsibility of constructing the temple of Lord Brahmji has to die immediately after temple warming ceremony. In this case, Kheta ramji Maharaj took samadhi on the say day of opening of the temple in 1986.

After attending a scrumptious lunch at Balotra hosted by Ashok’s dealer, we came to town at around 5 pm.

I took train for Ahmedabad at 6.45 pm and the train chugged in at Ahedmbad Railway station at sharp 3.30 am next morning, I was amazed with the cleanliness of Suryanagari Express. I hired one taxi at immediately rushed to Sharnam 11. Bhabhiji is on the way from Pali to Ahmedabad and will be reaching here by 7.30 am. But was really impressed and happy to see the neatness and beauty of Bhai sab’s flat. Everything is so perfectly kept. Anyhow I tried to sleep, but could not. So without wasting a single minute, I got up, prepared tea and enjoyed reading Chetan Bhagat’s book “The Greatness Guide 2”.

And just finished writing this note for all of you.

More reams to write…but wait for my next posting pl.

INDER MATE TERI JAI HO...

With the blessing of baiji, Neeru has purchased new house and in the presence of Jijaji and Kamla baisa, house warming ceremony was done in Mumbai on 20th June, 2010. Congratulations.

In the same way, we also performed Havan in our newly acquired Flat at Chandigarh (Zirakpur). It is a three bed room flat with an area of around 1525 sqft. It is fully fully furnished with ACs and other accessories. It has a club house with swimming pool and a primary school within the complex.

Attaching herewith a few snaps.

I am sure, Induji will be blessed with all prosperity as she has volunteered to do sewa of baiji despite so many odd not being in her favour.

I always sing song in my house, "Indira mata teri jai ho.., Nao (nine) Santano ki mata teri jai ho....."

Now busy in packing up.....enjoy yourself and pray God for well being of Baiji...

I remember the story of Buddhi Kaki written by Prem Chand....I am sure the story will not be repeated.

"Ga kare.....Ga kare....."

Yesterday was again a tough though a normal day. In the preceding mid night, got call bell from Baiji and noticed that she was feeling wet. The Catheter developed some technical snag and urine was leaking. Some SOS changes were made and waited for morning. We called nurse and at around 9.30 am he did betadin flushing.

In the afternoon, when (except Beenu), nobody was at home, Baiji again had feeling to pass stool. Behanji mustard all courage and helped her sitting on wheel chair. But the chair tilted a little bit, behanji tried to control as far as possible, but in the process she suffered a huge jerk in her spinal cord. Good masses and medication was done. She is alright now.

After a few hours after flushing, we again noticed that urine is not coming in the required quantity and we could see bubbles/flakes in urinal pipe. Obliviously, this was a case of infection.

So without waiting, I talked to the urologist and he suggested for inserting new three way catheter. The same technician was called and he brought the desired pipe and flushing activity was repeated with new instrument. This is a painful process and we can hear the huge cries from Baiji.

Beenu and attendant took care of her for the whole remaining day as I was away to office and at flat site.

Anyhow, night passed peacefully. As usual I got up at 5.30 am today and after brushing and a little bit of “pranayam” went to kitchen for making tea. Baiji would call immediately for taking her to Wash room. We took her to bath room, though it was a little early from usual routine. After we had our tea. behanji again went to wash room to help her for other activities.

Meanwhile, I went out side to see, if Attendant is coming. After seeing her from a distance of 300 meters, my joy knew no bounds and I cried…”Ga kare…Ga Kare…”.

A BROTHER IN NEED IS A BROTHER INDEED

Now a days Prasana and Gudia are in Mumbai to stay with Sumit and also for treatment of Gudia. I had opportunity to visit them though for a few minutes on the way to airport when I was in Mumbai recently.

Sumit has got a two BHK accommodation in prime locality of Andheri on FF. Before, coming to Mumbai, he had never gone to any other big city. He is very sensible, sincere and innocent. When it comes to sharing responsibility, I will give him full marks.

He is taking Gudia to Bombay Hospital, getting all the tests done including MRI and CT scan. Getting appointment of good physician is also a herculean task in Mumbai. He has been doing all these diligently. MRI report is expected on coming Monday.

Sumit, may I assure you we all are with you and if you require any kind of support, we are always avaiable. You have given a very good example of true brother.

“Hain man tu kyo kare re manan”

Last week was quite hectic. Kids have gone to Jodhpur to stay with their Nani nani. Our servant Priti left the job. Baiji was always complaining that no doctor is visiting home here in this big city. We have big hospitals, but when we call doctors at home, they are very rude and would ask us to bring patient to hospital. And unfortunately patient is not in a condition to be taken to hospital in a paralytic condition. So to give her relief we made our campaign more vigorous and at last found one physician who would be visiting us. However, before his visit, we saw crystal flakes in urinal pipe and called male nurse and got the catheter changed. Only four days back when I was out of station, medicinal flushing was done owing to same problem. Thanks that I have a friend doctor staying at a remote location and would advise me on phone.

On the same day she was complaining about pain in eye. So again I called ophthalmologist who is good Samaritan who responded to my call.

On next day morning physician visited her and prescribed not less than 10 medicines and surprisingly they were same medicines which she was taking, but of different companies. He also suggested for physiotherapy. So on Tuesday afternoon physiotherapist came and given her a mild exercise. But as the nature of baiji is, she would not agree for anything. So we had to reluctantly say no to physiotherapist for further visits. Despite she being a hyper diabetic patient, she will require not less than 2 spoons of sugar in tea, love to eat sweet after each meal, would like to have namkeen and again followed by soanf with misri.

Calling and visiting so many doctors only made me to convince, that this is no more a mission, but a big commercial venture.

Then, Baiji keeps on remembering and crying for home town. The slightest hint of taking the responsibility. many a times, took the dear ones to hibernation. Hats off to Behnji, who despite being so nervous after untimely and sad demise of the most lovely brother, discharging her responsibility so diligently and shelved her plan to visit Thailand and parents who need her so badly now.

BAJI'S HEALTH UPDATE

After a gap of 3 days, attendant came yesterday, though a little late. With the help of great Behanji I was able to take care of her daily chores.

Since limbs are not working properly she always inquire whether she will ever be cured. I have no answer to this except giving her homeopath medicines. Then she will be remembering again and again to her native place, people and all those who are associated directly and indirectly.

So now anxiously waiting for next month.....

Punishment to Kasab

There was an euphoria and celebration all around when "death" sentence awarded to Kasab. The criminal justice system in India is strong enough to play its role and punish the convict. But what is the cause of celebration? Happiness?

In my opinion ..nothing. Of course Kasab will be subject to gallows after passing through the due course of safeguards available to him.

The moot point is who is guility. Whether Kasab or his mentors? Kasab was a mere pawn, like an instrument used to execute a sordid plan. So even if we are able to destroy one instrument, whether we have been able to curb effectively those played the role in carving out such a huge massacre is the biggest challenge.

Therefore, while I am not advocating leniency to Kasab, I am saying punish those who are responsible for creating havoc in Mumbai.

I think best way is to make our country more and more economic super power. We have largest working and most intelligent population. Our top class brain is serving America for a few hundreds of dollars. Bring them here. Use their brain power. Let us create more and more intellectual assets. The physical asset will follow. Military and armed forces will be automatic strong once we get the prosperity. Nobody will be able to look at us with an ulterior motive.

Let us not buckle. We have to firm and determind. Those are creating trouble in India, will be responsible for their own ruin. This is exactly what we see happening in our neighbouring country where no day is free from blast.

It is rightly said do not expect a better crop if your seeds are week. You will reap what you sow.

GHANTI MASISA

When in class IX I read in Rapid Reader, "Helen Keller Discovered the World”. She said that when you come across the beauty of garden, fresh air, mountain, river, sea or a set of circumstances, you tend to remember the memories associated in the similar situation happened in the past.

Today I remember Ghanti Masisa. She was a lady worth remembering on pre mother’s day. She became widow at a very young age. She had a small house in Ghoron ka chowk. She took the stitching work and was known as expert in Sari falls. This profession helped her in maintaining the family. She had two sons and two daughters. But she always remained alone post marriage of all siblings.

She used to come to us either by local bus or many times walking. She had tremendous sense of humour. When we came to city after passing middle school in a village, some times we used to go to her place. So Masisa would be cooking second time, as food will fall short of our unending appetite.

She was known as "Ghanti" (literary meaning "bell"), because she will never stop talking.

At the age of 78 she fell and passed away in Hospital. So Mithusa would come to us and say “I wanted to do Sewa of Baiji, but that Icchha is now not fulfilled”.

JOHDPUR PROGRAMME

As per rescheduled programme Baiji will be flying to Jodhpur on 23rd June, 2010. She will be landing in Jodhpur Air India Flight at 2 pm. She will be flying here from King Fisher.

As of date Induji wants her to stay with her.

We sincerely appreciate her senses of responsibility and taking lead role always for all matters.

Kaku

Today is birth day of our cute Adi and we all wish him a very happy birth day. His papa is very close to create a Guinness World Record for writing maximum blog in Hindi and on daily basis without any fail. Hats off to great papaji,

Kaku was born in 1975 in Mokalsar and had his middle level education there in guidance of Prsasann Masi. Mokalsar did not come to him out of his choice, but that is how things have happened and later on he had to face the humiliation from so called “Shaharwale”, none of them could become even graduate despite having all facilities of high level education in Jodhpur.

He was first enrolled in Mahesh School and subsequently I took him to Hanwant School. He was post graduated in Science and could influence many people who came across him during his college days. However, only Anju was lucky to grab him.

Immediately after post graduation he joined CAZRI as scientist and also used to teach college students. Subsequently, he joined M/s Apolo Tyres as their MIS officer. However private sector was not a cup of tea for Kaku AND switched over from one NGO to another.

Wherever he went, he excelled and in a very short time got recognition for creating something unique, new and creative. This is the reason he was selected among top rankers for an assignment out of India. Besides the mental satisfaction he got, he has been blessed with lot of physical comforts like Five Star Accommodation facing lakes, sky touching towers, natural surroundings and so on.

You will surprise today is birth day of Adi bhagwan and I am writing about his dad. Yes…because he is a “khas” bhanja. While we have 43 members in the family I would place him next to Prakash bhai sab. Totally selfless, both husband and wife and would come forward to help any family members with utmost zeal and sincerity. He is very much concerned about Baiji as he lived with her like her 10^th kid.

So we all wish him a very bright future.

BAIJI LATEST UPDATE

HI...,

Mataji is though well, but she needs company. Telephone has its own limitations. She cries, she weeps, she scolds, she desires, she dreams, but Jodhpur is far away.

Woh..bahavi road ki mataki, Woh...buso ki awaj, woh hotel wale, woh..betia.. vakil sab... Now I realise, how we feel when not in the company of the people we have been all through the life.

This photographs of baiji with her Attendant..1.5.2010....May day..do lot of work, enjoy it, meditate it and feel worship.

ANURANJAN

While we are a little concerned about health of Baiji and her dream of going to home place, here is a good news.

April is the season of Appraisal. Our Salim now known as Anuranjan got a very decent rise in his kitty.

Three cheers for him. Bade Benji, Jijai and Shilipi must be very happy and I am looking for a grand party.

Enjoy one old photograph.

OLD AGE VOWS

Baiji is not well since Dec 2009. She went to Jodhpur in the month of Nov 09 and was cooking and doing all house hold chores herself and then decided to move to Bhilwara for a few days. On very first day, her legs refused to move and on diagnosis it was found that she had severe diabetic problems. Raju being in small town was not able to cope with this situation and immediately rushed her to Ahmedabad.

As usual bhai sab, bhabhiji and Chinku put in their best efforts for her medical care. She was admitted in Shelby Hospital in Ahmedabad. She was diagnosed with diabetes mellitus Hypertension and also compression in Spinal Cord. Urine frequency was very high and therefore, minimum two persons were required to take her to toilet after every one or two hour. She was subsequently made to go through urinary procedure in the month of March 2010. Since then urine is being passed through catheter only. Attempts to urinating without catheter have failed.

On 21^st March, 2010 she was brought at our place. One full time female attendant was engaged to take care of her. She was also taken to PGI and advised to be admitted for at least 15 days for proper diagnosis. However, surgery at this stage is difficult and there is no guarantee that she would be cured by procedure and were were told that other problems may crop up after surgery due to old age. In any case bajiji herself is not ready for this. Alternate medicines (homeopathy) were also given, but due to bitter taste she refused to carry on.

She also developed infection in the 2^nd week of April, 2010. White flakes were seen in the urine bag and flow of urine was completed stopped. We tried to call on doctor and nurse on emergency basis but nobody agreed to come at home and wanted patient to be brought at hospital. At last with his contacts, Gopi managed one male nurse and as per telephonic advice from one of my close frinds is also an urologist in other city , bladder flushing was done with high dose of medicines. This process was repeated twice on alternate day and with God blessing, situation was brought under control. The urine culture and urine routine test were conducted subsequently and they were found be as per desired level looking to the condition of patient.

The physiological problems are still manageable. However, the biggest challenge is the emotional issue. Being mother of nine kids and the senior most member of a family having 43 members she feels lonely and alone. Though we give her best of our company, the attendant and additional servant also available round the clock so that she keeps on talking, but no other company is there. Neighbors and friends seldom visit. Even if they do, they are not interested in listening to patient vows. That is how the fact of life is.

She wants to be among her close knits, wants to talk to her sister-in-law, nephew, brother, bhabhi, daughter, daughter-in-laws, grand sons and so on. Mobiles phone has been kept at her bed side so that she could talk to the dear ones. She wants to go to Jodhpur, wants to get sympathy of all those who are closely associated with her, wants to see her residence. But alas, that is difficult. Everybody is already occupied with their own responsibilities.

The morale of the story:

1. As far as possible, we should keep ourselves physically fit as old age is extremely difficult phase.
2. We should give best of morale education of our kids, so that they have the emotions of sufferings and pains of dear one AND as a parent we should give maximum love to our kids.
   
3. Last but not least, you should be financially sound to support yourself.