EGO

 

“Sir,  I have closed the deal with XYZ Chemical company for the supply of ABC chemical at Rs. 50 per kg and sir we will be saving around Rs. 50 lacs on this deal”,  Ashok, the Purchase Manager told his senior  Mr. Gupta, Gen Manager with a lot of excitement and hope to receive appreciation.

 

“How dare you!!  The deal was already closed by me at Rs. 55.00 per kg.  What do you want to prove?  Am I a poor negotiator?    This will also spoil the name of the company.  My commitment was final. “  an agitated boss, blasted on Ashok.

“But Sir, you only told me to close the deal”.

“No, I told you to close the documentation work”, GM cried in full throttle.

“Sir, I am sorry, I couldn’t understand you properly”, Ashok tried to pacify his boss.

At Sunlight Housing Society, the President of the Society Mr. Gaurav Sharma,  ordered for AMC of elevators before the expiry of the earlier contract so as to continuity of the service.

“Mr. Sharma, this is absolutely not acceptable.  You haven't consulted me.  I am sure I would have saved you at least one lac rupee on this contract.”  One aggrieved member of RWA Mr. Gyan Chand told the President.  “It seems you had mala fide intention of deliberating ignoring me”, he further vented on him.

“Mr. Gyan, it was your prime responsibility to close the contact of AMC, but you were unnecessary taking your own sweet time.  I am here to discharge my duty as President and not to satisfy your ego” President retorted back.

“Ms Soundarya, Can I talk to you?” Anubhav, a classmate of her in college politely asked her.

Instead of responding Ms. Soundarya simply ignored Anubhav.  He felt insulted.   Ms Soundarya became very famous in college for her attitudes.   She got married at the age of 24 and but divorced within six months and now she is leading a solitary life for the past 45 years.

Most of us come across such incidents in our day to day life.  I call them “Ego” issues.

“Ego” is nothing but self-imposed importance of oneself.

Knowingly or unknowingly,  some persons keep a distance from their own colleagues, subordinates,   their relatives because they feel they are superior to others.

Ego hurts.  We stop learning because we think about how can we learn from our juniors?  How can we learn from the person who doesn’t have technical knowledge?  Why should I accept my mistake?  Why should I ask my colleague to do me this favor?

An egoistic person will have devoid of good friends.  He will crack poor jokes to remain in limelight.

Taking on such an egocentric outlook will close your mind to new solutions and inhibit your from learning the lessons at hand.  Growth will soon come to a halt, as will your contribution to the organization.

 

A businessman can’t afford to remain egoistic.  He has to deal with all kinds of customers.  He has to in fact satisfy the ego of his customers to get his work done.

 

Now let us examine the word “Pride”.  Pride is entirely different from the Ego.

 

“Pride” a feeling of fulfillment, satisfaction for any action or an event.  It may be derived from any achievement of oneself or his family.  He will normally be altruistic.

A person can take price in his value system, his family, his society, his country and always feel happy about this.

An IAS  officer gets an enormous opportunity in making money through dubious means.  But still, he remains honest.  His integrity remains impeccable.  This value system is his pride.

 

Now it's up to us in which category we want to fall in.  But in any organization or business, Egocentric people are ultimately discarded or marginalized.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

RELATIONSHIP

Nowadays you will hardly find any advertisements in the newspapers for job vacancies.  Earlier papers were full of such advertisements.    What has changed?   The positions are being fulfilled but the methods have changed.   Relationships and references play major roles.

An investor/cum landlord approached one Corporate Leasing officer and offered his space to his company and despite his requirement, the leasing guy refused to accept his offer.  Reason: this investor behaved very badly with the other company executives during the previous tenancy.   His space remained vacant for consecutive 8 years. 

A daughter-in-law refused to say even a single word in the appreciation of her mother-in-law even after 10 years of her death.  

Mr. Bhandari surprised to find a call from an executive from a company after a gap of 5 years.  “Mr. Bhandari, hope you recognize me”, a voice from the other end said.

“Mr. Mehta, what a pleasant surprise!!  Your number is very much saved.  How are you?  How is your family”, Mr. Bhandari said.

“Sir, 5 years back we backed out from a contract of supply from you due to some teething problem at our end you had to suffer, but you never complained.  We still appreciate that gesture and now we want to place a bulk order against advance payment”, Mr. Mehta said.

“No issue, don’t worry about the payment part, you simply email me your requirement,” Mr. Bhandari said. And the deal was done.

Now see the difference in these three instances.

 A good gesture, a good relationship always matters.

Many times, as we grow on corporate ladders, we tend to forget our old association, our old friends, our relatives on folly assumptions of “superiority”.   People even don’t bother to respond to telephonic calls.  Nor they call back too.  A simple arrogance.

We all are human beings.  We remember both good or bad instances and co-relate immediately. 

The difference of opinions is always respected.  The matter must end then and there itself.

A person will always remain beautiful not by age but by his conduct.  Everyone loves the company of good people.  Because those who are good will remain beautiful.  Half of your work is done by your relationship with your superiors, your cross-functional executives, your vendors or colleagues,

"rahiman dhaga prem ka mat todo chatkaye tute se phir na jure jure ganth par jaye"

INDIA VS PAKISTAN

India and Pakistan are always at loggerheads since independence. I wonder why?

Partition was a harsh reality.  It was based on political aspirations of the leaders. Thousands of the lives were lost. But why do we fight now when:

1. We share almost same culture
2. Our food habits are same.
3. Indians love their TV drama. Pakistanis love our cinema.

4. We love their singers and they enjoy our songs.

5. Both the countries are not expansionists.

6. Kashmir is mere an excuse. It’s part of India is a reality.

Then why to fight?  Why to waste billions of dollars on defence?  Why not spend on education and health care? Why leaders fail understand this?  Or existence of the country itself depends upon  belligerent attitude towards India!

China is bigger threat to both the countries. It will simply eats away Pakistan in the guise of funding. Better Pakistan realises this early. Otherwise, let it also face fate of Sri Lanka.

Life is short

“Good morning Khatriji.  What a pleasant surprise”, I responded on hearing  ring on my mobile phone.

There was pin drop silence from other end.

I said, “hello sir....”

“Pradeepji, I am his wife. Khatri sab is no more”. The choked voice said.

“Very sad” I responded.

“Since everything happened so fast, I am clue less and checking from his mobile contacts, if you have anything to do with him”,  she said.

I was stunned and felt sorry for her.
Mr Albela khatri was very young.

A few days ago, I called my doctor Mr. Gill on his mobile.

“Good morning Dr sab.  How are you?”, I said.

“uncle papa ab nahi rahe”, his son responded.

I was taken aback. Dr Sab was hardly 45 and cancer took toll of his life.

Life is short. Nobody knows what  is there for us tomorrow.

Let us avoid jealousy, learn to love each other, respect friends and burn “ego”.  Ego is the sign of inferiority complex.

If you can’t help someone. Atleast don’t harm him.